Unforgiveness and Judgment – Tag Team Jailers

Forgiveness and releasing judgment against those who have wronged us are important teachings as we counsel and prepare people for deliverance ministry.

Jesus makes it clear that unforgiveness gives the demonic kingdom a legal right to torment us. In Matthew 18:34, He states that unless we forgive with our whole heart, we will be turned over to the jailers/tormentors to be tortured, until we should pay back all that we owe. Unforgiveness is a private cell of torture, reserved just for one. The person you resent is not in that cell with you. He is free. Forgiveness drops the debt of payment we require, in order for us to forgive them. It opens the jail cell and lets us walk free. Judgment, however, is a cell reserved for two. Judgment by the power of your words condemns and imprisons you both. Judgment comes when you stand on top of the mountain and wonder why they are not where you are yet.

I remember back in the early days of my walk with the Lord, I became horribly offended by the comments of a co-worker. Fortunately for me, he exacted my forgiveness by asking for it. It forced me to speak it out loud so the torment stopped. A year later, however, that old memory resurfaced and a toxic flow of judging words poured out of my mouth. On the phone I was complaining, “Oh I remember what he said to me, I forgave him, but he is still the same. He treats everyone with disrespect. He is arrogant, obnoxious, demanding… blah, blah, blah”. You get the picture. About that time, something came into my eye. It felt like a log.

For weeks I suffered with a torn eyelid until one day, after many doctor visits, I paused to ask the Lord for the cause of this torment. What I heard in my spirit was: Matthew 7:3. “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brothers eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?” Ouch! It was Jesus talking about judgment. I went back to the day the log came into my own eye and I remembered the words I had spoken over my colleague. I was able to ask for forgiveness, repent, and release all judgment. Within a day or two, my eye healed.

Amazon’s Kindle Reader And Kindle Books Make A Great Tag Team

In many ways, the Kindle e-book reader is the ideal product for Amazon. It’s a great fit for the Amazon business model and benefits greatly from Amazon’s well established association with books and reading.

The company’s link to books, along with its brand recognition and the trust which that engenders gives consumers confidence that Amazon will not only support its e-book reader hardware in the long term, but that it will also make sure that there is a wide choice of reasonably priced e-books for use with the reader hardware.

In fact, the combination of reader hardware and e-books has been a key factor in the success of the Kindle to date. The huge selection of Kindle books gives customers the confidence to buy Amazon’s reader. Similarly, Kindle hardware sales result in additional sales of Kindle books.

Whilst that is intuitively true, if you want some positive proof, you only have to look at the sales spike which Kindle books see every January. The explanation for that is the fact that so many people wake up on Christmas morning to find a Kindle reader under the family tree.

Over the next few days and weeks, Kindle recipients will visit Amazon and download a few Kindle books for use with their newly acquired reader. Hence the annual sales spike in Kindle e-book sales every January.

The fact is that Kindle e-books and Kindle readers enjoy a very profitable symbiotic relationship. The huge selection of books gives customers the confidence to buy the reader hardware. Every new Kindle reader sale generates further sales of Kindle books. It’s a virtuous circle which results in an upwards sales spiral for Amazon.

The recent introduction of the Kindle Fire tablet computer could result in Amazon finding itself in a similar position with downloadable movies. Don’t forget, Amazon owns Netflix and, in the shape of the Kindle Fire, has once again paired hardware and software in much the same way that it matched up the Kindle reader and Kindle books.

Find the Right Couple and You Can Have the Tag Team Champions of Network Marketing in Your Business

A huge advantage in the network marketing business is available to couples. There is a hue potential for couples to work together. The industry is already attracting huge numbers and the future will see increasing numbers of network marketers choosing to work the business as a partnership.

The trend of working from home is accelerating!

Why? Jobs in corporate America are quickly disappearing. In the future the only security in life is self-reliance.

There are many advantages that attract couples to your business:

1. People who are working in your business may already be working full-time and they do not have time to grow their business. Bringing in a partner to share the load could have a powerful effect on their future growth.

2. Many network marketers excel in certain areas while they struggle in others. Introducing them to a partner could be a clever business move.

3. Find couples who are working full time and they have not started a family. They could supplement their careers with a business and get on the fast track to financial independence.

4. Couples who are in their forties or fifties are great prospects for a home-based business. The business could be an insurance policy against the loss of one or both incomes in the future.

5. Couples whose children have moved out is an ideal time to take stock of their finances and start bolstering that retirement fund.

In all these cases, timing is important. Their are many eager spouses eager to leave their jobs and join their partners in the business before the business is producing enough to replace their income. There are many factors that would encourage a partner to quit his or her job to join the business on a full time basis. Events like a convention, incentive trip or just a record-breaking month or two will give a person the opportunity to quit their job.

Just remember, spouses eager to be involved in the home-based business can make a big contribution on a part-time basis. There is never a shortage of tasks to do.

One other consideration a couple must deal with is the compatibility issue. Can a married couple work together and stay married at the same time? There are some definite rules that need to be followed in order for this to be a business venture that will fit in with their lives together.

1. Be clear about who does what. Share the tasks, do not duplicate.
2. Each partner should have a share of the creative and day-to-day responsibilities.
3. Each partner has definite strengths – use them!
4. Having separate offices is always a good idea – no unnecessary distractions.
5. Communicate often – share ideas as well as enthusiasm.
6. Trust in each other – you have the same goals and you share the same rewards.
7. Keep the work related stuff separate from the family stuff.
8. Set boundaries – the business should not be 24/7
9. Celebrate – achieve together and make the most of the good times.

Showing couples that working together has its rewards is the most effective way of recruiting people for your business. Let them know from your personal experience that working together can be incredibly fulfilling. Open the door to your opportunity and invite couples to enter. Your business will grow faster and be more stable than ever!

Tag Team Networking

Although a common term in entertainment wrestling, business professionals are partnering to expand their networking and increase their personal and business opportunities. This new concept is taking the networking world by storm! Now professionals can stay updated on business, technology, social and industry trends. They are able to gain referrals and expand their network. They are also able to gain the needed information and resources to target their networking agenda and goals.

Listed below are helpful tips on how professionals can team up to succeed in their networking endeavors!

Play by Play

When partnering up with one or more colleagues, professionals should outline a game plan for their networking goals. Meeting face to face, by email or phone and discussing objectives and ways to networking on a consistent basis is always preferred. Each person should clearly state their expectations, wants and needs. There should also be a rotation as to who leads the general sessions and how business can be conducted. It is also an excellent way to diversify the team for increasing the broad variety of networking opportunities.

Team Affiliations

Members should join different professional organizations, networking groups and clubs and substitute for one another. Another good idea is to invite guests to different events and meetings. Some organizations can allow more that one member under various membership statuses which can save more money that just one individual signing up. Professionals can also inquire about individual and group representations.

Networking Partners

Another great way to expand your networking endeavors is to have your counterparts network on your behalf. Offer them several of your business cards and explain to them your business, industry etc. While your counterparts are networking, they can refer you to potential clients, customers and business partners. This type of networking can also be reciprocated. Even though, individuals can not be everywhere at once, it is refreshing to have associates networking on your behalf, and vice versa.

Komen Tag-Teamed by Planned Parenthood, Politics and Women

Could anyone have expected the boxing match that occurred last week when Susan G Komen for the Cure announced they were severing funding for Planned Parenthood while the latter is under federal investigation for alleged improper use of funds? And, the punches have not even begun to end as the outcry from political organizations and women saying they cannot forgive Komen, even though that decision was reversed, continue to tag-team Komen.

As a seventeen year breast cancer survivor, I am greatly dismayed and disheartened as I watch the punches being thrown by those using the decision as a platform to promote their agenda. I have stayed involved in the cancer community as a coach, advisor and prayer companion for others on their personal cancer journey and, as such, have some very strong opinions regarding the spiritual, political and personal aspects of what has transpired since last Wednesday. However, it is my opinion that we need to step out of the boxing ring and start using some common sense.

Komen is a non-profit organization as is Planned Parenthood. They have strict guidelines that they must adhere to or they risk losing their 501(c)(3) status. Although giving funds to other non-profit organizations during a federal investigation is not one of the criteria for losing a 501(c)(3) status, think about the potential ramifications of any such organization giving funds to another such organization if the latter WAS found guilty of the allegations. This could very easily become a “guilty by association” and lead to federal investigating of the funding organization. Apply this common sense concept to these two organizations and the potential ramifications for Komen being pulled into a federal investigation are greatly increased since the very subject of the federal investigation into Planned Parenthood is improper use of funds.

Why would Komen naively subject their organization to such scrutiny for what appears to be around 10% or their total annual funding? (In 2011 the amount given to Planned Parenthood in grants was $680,000.) It was a brilliant business move, for the Komen board, to change their criteria to disallow funding organizations under federal investigation. This move would have allowed for future funding to Planned Parenthood if the investigation proved there was no wrong-doing on the latter’s part.

In my opinion, it is very unfortunate that Komen buckled under the punches they received from organizations and individuals alike. They have been left in a heap in the middle of the boxing ring yet many are still taking punches under the guise of “saving lives”. Planned Parenthood, has disclosed that the vast majority of their family planning/abortion clinics across the nation, do not offer mammograms. They outsource mammograms to medical clinics whose services include cancer screening. In other words, the funds granted by Komen to Planned Parenthood are used by Planned Parenthood to pay for the services underprivileged women receive from other healthcare providers.

Great Tag Teams Of The Past Part 2

If you read part one of the great tag teams of the past you will have learned a little about The Brain Busters, The Rock ‘n’ Roll Express and The British Bulldogs but that has hardly touched the surface of the many great tag teams that have been and gone over the years.

The three teams featured in part one where personal favorites of mine as oppose to the most successful tag teams from days gone by, but for part two I have decided to focus on teams who where very successful and left a lasting impression on the tag team division.

The Road Warriors

One of the most successful tag teams of all time without question The Road Warriors, or The Legion of Doom as they where also known, are certainly legends and no doubt future WWE Hall of Famers.

With there mean look and powerhouse style it didn’t take long for the Road Warriors to become a force in tag team wrestling, enjoying huge success in both America and Japan and holding titles in almost every territory they wrestled in. The Road Warriors where so popular that whenever promotions tried to turn them heel it failed as the crowd refused to go against them. When the Road Warriors won the WWE tag team titles at Summerslam 91 they became the first tag team to hold the world titles in the big three companies of the 80’s.

The Road Warriors had many classic bouts with the Midnight Express ( including the first scaffolding match), and The Four Horsemen (with whom they had the first ever war games bout), as well as brutal bouts with others. Often imitated but never bettered, poor later incarnations cannot take away what the Road Warriors achieved in their prime.

The Steiner Brothers

Scott and Rick Steiner where at one time one of the greatest tag teams to grace the wrestling business. Debuting in 1989 they had many brilliant battles on there way to winning 6 WCW tag titles, 2 WWE tag team titles, NWA tag titles and 2 IWGP tag team titles.

Although Scott Steiner always seemed destined for a big singles career he was probably at his best when part of the Steiner Bros. team. I would advise you try to see them in action against the likes of Gordy and Williams, The Midnight Express and The Heavenly Bodies to see what I mean.

Lets hope TNA don’t try to ruin there memory like the WWE almost did with the Road Warriors.

The Demolition

When the WWE failed to tempt the Road Warriors to join the company in the 80’s they created a team in a similar vein that team was Demolition. With face paint, tough guy looks and one of the best pieces of entrance music in wrestling history Demolition quickly became top dogs in a very competitive tag team division (it featured teams such as the Hart Foundation,The British Bulldogs,Strike Force and many more.).

Winning the WWE tag titles from Strike Force at Wrestlemania 4 Demolition held on to the belts for a record 478 days, which still stands today. Demolition had many great bouts in there history including a classic 2 out of 3 falls bout with the Hart Foundation, by which time Crush had joined the team of Ax and Smash due to Ax( Bill Eadie) suffering heart problems. Because of this when the Road Warriors did join WWE the feud lost its spark and failed to be the success it could’ve been.

Tag Team Writing

I thought it couldn’t be done. Write a piece with another author? Someone who has a distinctly different voice than mine? No way! We’d clash. We’d argue. Neither of us would be satisfied, and the end result would be disastrous, a muddied representation of watered down prose.

I based this prejudice on the experiences I’ve had at a standards drafting conference. Standards need to be written clearly and concisely. Right?

Wrong!

These tomes are lengthy, comprehensive, and full of language that doesn’t soothe the soul of any beast, let alone a regular Joe or Jill. Peppered with acronyms and obtuse phraseology, they are tough to read at best. I’ve sat through a number of meetings for my “day job” where committees of fifty men and women tried to edit via projected spreadsheets and documents. It can be torture!

Frequently, six or seven well-intentioned members will grandstand. Sometimes for HOURS. And all for the want of “le mot juste.” Usually, however, it’s never for the “right” word, it’s more for “me too-ism.” I become tempted to lay my head down on the desk and let it all wash over me in a flurry of agony. But I don’t. I pay attention and try to contribute, like a good doobie. Finally, when the eight hours have passed, I return to my hotel room and delight in writing another chapter in the LeGarde Mystery Series, thrilled to be alone to compose to my heart’s content, without other wannabe writers messing around with my prose.

So, when a friend of mine asked for help with her query letter, I thought, “Sure!” But I didn’t expect it would be done “live.” I thought we’d edit and attach recommendations via email, like we normally do. This time, however, she suggested that we actually get together to do this, on one computer, face-to-face. My instincts roared up into a tsunami. No way! I thought. I had massive doubts and began to type up something on my own.

She arrived shortly thereafter, with her own query written in advance. Aha! I thought. She has the same reservations about this dubious process.

For those of you who are unfamiliar with a query letter, it’s basically a one-page pitch that writers send to potential publishers or agents. It needs to have a short paragraph that regales your book in such an eloquent, witty style that the publisher has no choice but to immediately snap you up with a hefty advance! It’s impossible to do, especially if you are writing about your own book. I know. I’ve tried. For days. For weeks. Although my current publisher is competent and has been decent to me, I’m currently trying to hook a big time player who’s in the mass media stream. Finally, a fellow writer helped me with my own query and I wound up with a gorgeous paragraph, neatly crafted, that I didn’t write. Oh well.

My friend arrived. We sat down at my computer and began. After a few false starts, we began to meld our paragraphs, taking the phrases we favored from each other’s drafts. It started to work! What resulted was a “brainstorming-for-two” session. In the past, my experiences with brainstorming have been confined to engineering team activities involving problem solving or research and design. What normally happened in this environment was that “no thoughts were judged.” Ideas were floated up, bandied about, and recorded. One idea built on another. And another. Sometimes, if the team was lucky, some supremely unusual and fantastic combination of ideas resulted in innovation.

And so, my friend and I brainstormed. I typed up silly phrases that danced around the topics. She tossed out words and phrases. We built on the words, wending our way toward those jump-off-the-page, dynamic sentences. Together, we isolated the choicest phrases. It sang! It was lyrical! It was the best darned one paragraph synopsis I’d ever read!

Stop the Tag Team Enabling – Get You Whole Family on the Same Page to Help the Addict in Your Family

Family dynamics of addiction are a complicated phenomenon. The word “addict” conjures up a variety of emotional responses and stereotypical beliefs. This is further complicated by the experiential “filters” that people have regarding their prior experiences with other alcoholics and addicts at some other time and some other place in their lives.

When you have a family member or a close friend for that matter, who has addiction, you want to help. You want to save them from having to experience the consequences that you can foresee in the future. You want to make them be able to also see those consequences and thus avoid them. When you see someone that you love hurting, you want to kiss it, put a band-aid on it, or take away the pain in some way. These are normal reactions.

Family members apply normal solving problem behavior to the “abnormal” problems of addiction and end up enabling the perpetuation of the very “thing” they hope to stop-the drinking/using. A simple applied definition of “enabling” is the removal, or reduction, of the natural negative consequences of someone else’s behavior. When you remove the consequences of someone’s behavior, they have no motivation to change that behavior. As far as they are concerned, what they are doing is working for them. You as a family member, and enabler, can be in the bankruptcy courts as a consequence of continuing to financially enable them. If they still have other enablers willing to step up to the plate to carry on after you are broke, they don’t have a problem.

And having additional enablers waiting in the wings is commonplace for addicts. Most addicts have layers of enablers.
Within a family, the enabling hierarchy would include spouse (if any), parents (individually or collectively), grandparents, siblings. The first line of enablers is usually the spouse. If there is no spouse, the first line is usually the parents or a parent, individually. Tag team enabling starts when one enabler stops the enabling and another enabler steps up to take over that role.

If the primary enabler gets to a point where they are fed up and begins to detach (usually with anger), making a conscious decision to stop enabling, another person(s) in that family system will usually step up and carry on the rescue services. Often there is one family member, especially in the parental generation who is saying, “I’m not going to keep doing this. I am not willing to bail him/her out any more. That’s it!” and another who is saying, “Now Honey, wait a minute. What if ……”. They trade places as the one in the foreground gets fed up and moves into the background and the one who has been in the background moves into the foreground to continue the enabling. When the one in the foreground feels used up again, they will typically trade places again. If both parents get together on this, a grandparent may step in from the background to take their places as primary enabler. Any other family member could do the same.

Secrecy plays a major role in keeping these dynamics going. Alcoholics/addicts are good at manipulating others to help, and to keep secrets. Alcoholics blame others for their behavior and can be quite convincing on how they have been victimized. Temporary alliances spring up in alcoholic families, where the enabling of one family member is kept secret from other family members. This is very destructive and one of the common casualties of addiction in the family with an addicted “child” is the divorce of the parents.

How do you stop the tag team enabling? Stop the secrets. Be open and honest with the whole family about what is going on with the addict. Stop your enabling behavior. Don’t fight amongst yourselves over who is the worst enabler. Have a family meeting. Identify your historical enabling behaviors and the ones you are most likely to do in the future. Have a plan for not engaging in those behaviors. Provide support for each other. Support the other family members when they are on the verge of “caving in” and returning to enabling. Remind each other that stopping the enabling is the best thing you can do so that your loved one becomes motivated to change.

An addict is largely prevented from experiencing pain when he is cushioned from the negative consequences of his/her own behavior. S/he is most likely to experience a crisis when the enablers fold out from under him/her. Family members can actually “help” when a crisis occurs. Without bailing them out or rescuing them from the natural negative consequences, family members can provide access to treatment and recovery resources. Often, the treatment center has a lot more appeal to the addict, than a jail cell.

Don’t worry that they have not “hit bottom” or are going to treatment to stay married, stay out of jail, keep their job, etc. It is a myth that you have to have had some kind of epiphany to benefit from treatment. An addict who is “coerced” into treatment by the courts, judge, family, boss, etc. has the same probability of getting sober as the addict who enters treatment believing that they have hit bottom and are surrendering to recovery. Family members can help this to happen by getting out of the way and letting the addict suffer the consequences of his/her disease.

The Tag Team Pride of Great Britain

During the heyday of then World Wrestling Federation (WWF) in the early 1980s, one tag team composed of cousins Davey Boy Smith and Dynamite Kid befittingly represented Great Britain under the moniker British Bulldogs. With their incredible blend of strength and seamless teamwork, this duo that proudly wore the British flag was one of the greatest teams ever to emerge in the WWF during that time.

They started off in the WWF by establishing a heated feud with the notorious Hart Foundation, consisting of Bret “The Hitman” Hart and Jim “The Anvil” Niedhart. Showcasing their technical wrestling skills, the British Bulldogs elevated the tag team matches to a more intricate yet entertaining level as they generated a string of dazzling bouts with the equally talented but more flamboyant Hart Foundation. The Bulldogs eventually moved on to feud with the reigning tag team champions at that time, Greg “The Hammer” Valentine and Brutus “The Barber” Beefcake, also dubbed as the Dream Team, culminating in a tag team title match at the much-hyped Wrestlemania 2 that resulted in the Bulldogs’ first and only tag team title in the WWF. While maintaining their storied Dream Team rivalry, they also preserved their title against former champions called the Foreign Legion, comprising of Nikolai Volkoff and the Iron Sheik. Later on, after sustaining a critical injury that sidelined Dynamite Kid, the British Bulldogs eventually dropped their title to their original rivals, the Hart Foundation. And it was a downhill trip from there, as the no-nonsense demeanor of the Bulldogs was discarded in favor of bringing in with them an actual bulldog named Matilda. Eventually, the British Bulldogs would leave the WWF after participating in a 10-member team match in the 1988 edition of the Survivor Series.

Tag Teaming in Network Marketing

I remember first hearing the phrase “tag teaming” about fifteen years ago. The way it was explained to me completely turned me off. Basically a group of people hound and peruse a lead until the lead finally says yes.

A person who says yes under pressure is not a person you want in your business. And ganging up on a lead is also not the way to run your business.

Network marketing is about relationships. Relationships need common ground. Tag teaming in network marketing is about finding common ground with a lead and using that common ground to form a relationship.

Let’s say I meet Chris. Chris comes to me with a slight interest in joining the company. I want to learn about Chris. I want to know where he lives, what kind of work he does, what his hobbies are etc. Maybe I have a cousin that lives in the same state as Chris. This is one small area we can talk about as we exchange pleasantries on the places I saw when I saw my cousin. As I learn more about Chris, I learn he is really into racquet ball. It just so happens that the husband of one of my upline also plays racquet ball. Wow, a possible connection. So I ask my upline to email him. I send the first email. I say something like “Hi Chris, I’m copying my upline so and so on this email. When you mentioned to me your love of racquet ball, I immediately thought of so and so. Not only can she answer any business questions for you, but her husband also plays the sport daily.”

My upline now responds with an email, again copying me. In this email, my upline will introduce herself, give a bit of information about herself and then introduce the topic of racquet ball. Now there are two connections between Chris and my team. Connection one is with me, the places we’ve both visited in his home state and connection two is with my upline whose husband shares a love of racquet ball. This is true tag teaming. Two team members working on one relationship for a possible business connection.

Tag teaming can also work downline. If I meet someone who might be interested in the business and I find a strong common factor between this prospect and an existing team member, I can turn the lead over to my team member which is beneficial in two ways. I’m supporting my existing team while strengthening the bond between the team and the lead. Again, I send an email introducing the two parties and pointing out the common ground.